Everyone needs a partner. It's
a universal proposition. It's the way souls operate
best and therefore becomes a human need.
When we were babies, our partners were our parents.
Feeding, bathing, diaper changing, we needed a mom
or a dad, and contrarily, they needed us. They needed
to feel the special love babies provide, to feel the
joy of life renewed.
As we grew, friends gradually
took the place of parents as our partners. A special
friend to go on long bike rides with. Someone to share
secrets and dreams with. Teenagers no longer need
their parents, except for money or a ride to the mall.
By our late teens or early twenties, we're looking
for a long-term partner, someone to share a life with.
No other joy surpasses finding the perfect partner,
and creating a life together. Sometimes it's difficult
to find the right person. Usually, it's necessary
to become the right person first.
Sometimes partnerships are
dissolved through divorce or death. After my grandfather
died, my grandmother was fortunate to share her remaining
years with another wonderful partner. The two of them
brought a great deal of joy to each other and both
their extended families.
It takes work to keep our partnerships vibrant. Time,
effort and a lot of love are required. I feel fortunate
to have found the perfect partner. Someone to complete
me. Someone to give me constructive criticism. Someone
to keep me centered. She rubs my feet, I rub hers.
She cooks dinner, I cook dinner. She cleans the house,
I clean the house. When she's gone on business, I
miss her help, her companionship, her warmth, her
Many believe the journey to
spiritual enlightenment is one taken alone. This doesn't
work at all for me. Certainly individual growth is
required, each person must make their own effort.
But a wonderful person can make the trip much more
enjoyable. I'm not sure there is a final destination
on our journey to become like God. Whatever the case,
it should be a wonderful trip. It takes silent meditation,
it takes action, but most of all it takes a wonderful